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Wednesday, 30 September 2015

3 Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Marriage QUICKLY

Mistakes are only natural in a marriage. There is no such thing as perfection. But there are certain mistakes where once it’s done there’s no undo b*tton. The best option is to work toward a better outcome. If there is no attempt in rectifying the mistakes, the marriage will begin to suffer.
Many of us commit the same mistake over and over for reasons only we know. But what we fail to see is when we commit the same mistakes, we are hurting our spouses and children.
If you find yourself committing the following mistakes, take a step back and consider how your mistakes are possibly setting a negative tone in your marriage, and with your children.
1. Lie
“I’m only saying a white lie. He’ll never find out.” That statement is not necessarily true. There are circumstances in which you tell your spouse a white lie after you rationalize why it’s acceptable and get away with it. Oftentimes, the truth will prevail. And when it does, your spouse will feel deceived and believe you have lied about other things throughout the marriage. You create space for doubt. Also, depending on the age, children will pick up on what is going on in their parents’ lives. They can see and sense uncertainties and concerns. They will pick up on that negative behavior and believe lying is the proper way to handle problems.
2. Assume
Do not assume one spouse is responsible for everything. Once you are in a marriage (and have children), both parties should share responsibilities. In some instances, one spouse handles a little more of his share than the other, but it’s up to the couple’s discretion. Nevertheless, one spouse expected to do it all is not reasonable. If that is the case, why be married?

For example, if you have children, both parents must be involved in their lives. Join them in their activities, help them with homework and be there as a friend. If one parent assumes the other parent can take care of their children’s needs, they are affecting their own relationship with their children. Children will not feel comfortable approaching the parent who is unavailable most of the time. Remember, the household is not that of a single parent.
3. Disrespect
It’s common for couples to get on each other’s nerves. They bump heads a lot. However, the key is to never lose respect for one another. Once the insults begin, there is no going back. Do not throw the past in your spouse’s face. Do not take each other for granted. If you are in doubt about something, do not look through each other’s personal belongings seeking for answers. I was guilty of that. When I experienced it, I felt invaded. If you have doubts, don’t be intimidated to discuss your concerns with your spouse. Respect each other’s space, opinions and beliefs.
Again, mistakes are normal. If we do not commit them, how are we supposed to learn and grow as a couple? However, the lesson to learn is once you make the mistake, you are not to make it, again. In a marriage, there is no room for making the same mistake twice.

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